Special Needs Dad 365

Indifference
There’s a song I keep hearing on Pandora by the group the Lumineers called “Stubborn Love.” One phrase in particular sticks in my head every time I hear it..."the opposite of love is indifference." Writer Elie Wiesel once penned the phrase, “The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. The opposite of art is not ugliness, it's indifference. The opposite of faith is not heresy, it's indifference. And the opposite of life is not death, it's indifference.”

It takes a bit of time for that sink in and understand what it means. How can indifference be the opposite of so many things? I can sum it up that people have very strong emotions when it comes to love, art, faith, and death. When you are indifferent, you just don’t care. In fact, some would argue, that if you are indifferent, you are already dead in a figurative way.

Before Livy came into this world, I was in some ways indifferent to the challenges that so many people had. It’s not that I didn’t care about others, it’s that I didn’t do anything to help. I didn’t go to fundraisers, I wasn’t active in the community, and I certainly had no meaningful mission. I was going through the motions, work, play, living. But I wasn’t living with a purpose. Looking back now, I would consider that indifferent. Was I intimately connected with others who needed help, no. But there was plenty of ways I could have gotten involved.

So if you are actively engaged with a cause, excellent. If you are taking care of someone in your family that has challenges, perfect. If you volunteer with an organization, fantastic. But if you are sitting back, coasting through life relishing in your accomplishments and what they have brought you without considering the plight of others, I ask you to reflect and think if you are being indifferent. If you think you are being indifferent, I challenge you to do something about it!